IN SILENCE...
Dedicated to those whom I used to Love. Yet who hurt me just because!
Now your in GOD'S HANDS I forgive & yet we are DONE; IN SILENCE...
Swing Away Richard Swing Away!!!!!
by
Sir Richard...
Tuesday, June 7, 2016
Friday, June 3, 2016
5 Things That Happen When You Meet Your Soulmate | ❤ Pass it on...
SOUL MATE
Then your Soul Mate dies and also those who abandoned
U
with little or no explanation. Only the one who died
was really
your Soul Mate and yet You were Lucky, to have shared
sometime together with them at all!
Written by Sir
Richard...
Tuesday, May 31, 2016
DARK ROOMS, NOT OF THEIR OWN CHOOSING.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MWThQOINe9k
Do you remember as a kid, the feeling of daring yourself at night to walk across a dark room?
In a way you were excited because you know; you really know that there is nothing there to hurt you.
Some people get to choose their dark rooms.
They get to look for places where fear is only skin-deep but some people are nowhere near that lucky, as sadly the choice is made for them.
Due to my volunteer work with Missing Children, I have never known what to say to the parents and families of murdered loved ones.
The only thing that I can think of is to offer them my prayers so that they and their families are given strength and comfort during such a difficult time.
While they walk through their dark rooms, not of their own choosing.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n4CQK-ML_KA
Written for those who have lost so very much!
With Love and,
Written and Photo by Sir Richard...
http://bayo-hunter.blogspot.com
Music:
George Harrison - Beware of Darkness
The Phantom of the Opera - The Music of the Night
Sunday, May 29, 2016
FIRST STEPS AS A VOLUNTEER
UNDERSTAND MY FIRST STEPS AS A VOLUNTEER FOR MISSING
CHILDREN
1989 – So a
friend of mine told the abductor of my Daughter told:
“Listen, and
understand, because you abducted Richard’s youngest daughter. That he is mad as
hell and what has surprised us all, he has acted really fast hunting for you out
here. One thing for sure is; he can't be bargained with. He can't be reasoned
with. For what you did he doesn't feel pity, or remorse, or fear and he will
absolutely not stop, ever, until he recovers his child. Then he will do whatever
it takes to try & see that you’re locked up behind bars for a very long,
long time!” So you better return her and or make peace cause I am just
saying…
Here I am again, alone another memory date and as always, it’s hard to decide where I should start and at the same time very easy for it’s all there. All the memories - pain, fear, stress etc. - are just a recalled flashback away!
My story started simply enough: a failing marriage with a spouse who threatened to leave at any moment and with the spoken and unspoken threat of, “when I leave you will also never see your daughter again!”
Boom! It happened and as I was too close to realize it, or I did not want to believe, for I was taken by surprise!
I shall not go into the reasons or the mental avalanche that I went through. It was hard 25 years ago, for as a male I was told by one Police Officer; “To be happy, that since the old lady and kid were gone, why I don’t go have a beer?”
At the same time I am a male and the stigma of my gender and at that
time, people thought I must have done something wrong to bring this about. Hey,
you’re a male, just for that alone, you probably deserve it!
The fact is that I did not deserve it and no one, female or male deserves it, ever!!
My main concern was for my child because the person who had her in my opinion was mentally ill and a drunk and safety of my daughter was paramount. This person did not take and deny me my daughter because she wanted exclusivity. She took her to extract some sort of warped infliction of pain on me. The proof of this is that in the 27 years plus since I got my child back, she has never tried once to see our daughter. Not that you cannot find me either, as I am not that hard to find or that she was denied visitation, just unsupervised visitation.
For the parents like me who have lived through this hell, they know what I am talking about. We are all members of an exclusive club (family if you like), that has the highest entrance dues imaginable: the temporary or permanent loss of your own child. Imagine that your own flesh and blood child taken due to whatever horror that one can come up with.
After my youngest daughter was returned to me I wanted to repay those who helped me, through all of this!
Eric Sommerfeldt at Child Find Alberta listened to all my rants, frustrations and pain; he did so with Great Patience during all hours, many days and through many tears.
Even through hard work and a steep learning curve for myself, in a system that at that time had all the odds stacked against me.
I was blessed with the return of my youngest daughter.
Mostly I had help through prayer, my co-workers, family, friends, lawyers, judges, even police and many people who I would never have met if not for this tragedy.
For back then, I had made 2 promises to the GOD, that if my prayers were answered and my daughter was returned to me safe and sound, then I would make sure that no one I ever came across would have to go through this horror the hard way, like I did. Promise 2, is that I would also become a follower of Jesus Christ.
From 1989 to 1991, I helped out with finger printing other people’s kids for Child Find Alberta. That was nice and my youngest daughter had fun helping out as well. It was not really what I wanted to do though and it did not fill the parameters of my self – made promise.
I nagged and nagged the Child Find Alberta Office and In 1991 I became a card carrying volunteer of Child Find Alberta.
I was trained by Dave Credland to be a volunteer Case Manager for parents of all missing children. I am on call 24 hours a day and seven days a week, for Alberta, British Columbia, N.W.T.'s and the Yukon.
At the time I assisted parents in exploring their options to locate their children. Giving them emotional support while and taking their information for Child Find Alberta, for essentially I am just a good listener.
Though I am not a trained social worker/psychiatrist or lawyer, what I do let them know is that I am a parent. Who like them, has already gone through the same fog of despair of a missing child. I give them my hand and together, we walk as far as we can.
After I gathered the necessary information I send it to the full time week day Staff and Investigative Unit via whatever means possible. From that point the full time week day, Case Managers then set up appointments and started the process to hopefully recover the Missing Child.
Since then, I have taken 300 plus calls all hours of the day and night and in some of the strangest places.
Once, I was out of town and on a power pole assisting in the installation of a new power line to my family’s new garage. I was passed up a cell phone by my sister with a distressed parent of a Missing Child on the other end. I relied on my memory of the conversation to write my report. At that time of Child Find Alberta’s operations, I was afraid that I would lose the call, if I moved or hung up for a moment. So I stayed on my power pole and the bonus was that I also had a great view of the Rockies!
One of my scariest calls and we all have one, is a call that I received at 3 AM from a young man who informed me that he had run away from out of province and he had just arrived in Calgary. He went on to inform me that he was getting no help from anyone even though he was a reported “runaway”. The Police and drop in centres would not help him and I was his last resort!
With help from my late wife I was able to contact the Calgary City Police Services and they were going to send a car around to this young man.
He threatened suicide if I did not come down to where he was and help him out. I explained that I could not come down to where he was and that the Police would soon be there to help him out. Then he abruptly said well, “That’s it!” “Thanks for nothing!” “My death will be on your hands” and he hung up.
We both (my wife and I), sat there in the dark enveloped in the chilling silence and just did not know what to do.
The Police dispatch said that a car was to be dispatched but how long would that take and was this young man still at that location??
Both my wife and I just stared at each other and I was torn about going to him or not but that was not in my training, as I had done all that I could do.
I did not sleep much that night and the next day I was informed by Dave Credland that when the Police arrived at that young man’s location.
That there was not just one young person there, like we thought but also several others. Who, if I ignored my training and went to personally assist him, they would have promptly mugged and robbed me for my efforts. This young man not only was a runaway from out of province but one with a long list of outstanding violent arrest warrants to his credit.
These are again just two of my bizarre stories that we, who do this kind of volunteer work sometimes come across.
Through all of these calls and experiences I was lucky enough to keep my promises.
Which again was to make sure that no-one whom I ever came across, would have to go through this horror the hard way, alone like I once did.
I then had the honour in March 2003 to be chosen to attend training and become a member of an organization called Team H.O.P.E. (Help Offering Parents Empowerment) for 10 years (2003-2013) I was a volunteer for the National Centre for Missing and Exploited Children's Team HOPE (Help Offering Parents Empowerment). Since then combined with Child Find Alberta work I made nightly calls to over 407 Parents and assist them in the recovery of their Missing Children, again starting with Child Find Alberta and then through Team Hope of the National Center of Missing and Exploited Children. The NCMEC is the U.S.-based centre that was co-founded by Patti Wetterling, Abby Potash and John Walsh of America's Most Wanted after the murder of his son Adam.
The fact is that I did not deserve it and no one, female or male deserves it, ever!!
My main concern was for my child because the person who had her in my opinion was mentally ill and a drunk and safety of my daughter was paramount. This person did not take and deny me my daughter because she wanted exclusivity. She took her to extract some sort of warped infliction of pain on me. The proof of this is that in the 27 years plus since I got my child back, she has never tried once to see our daughter. Not that you cannot find me either, as I am not that hard to find or that she was denied visitation, just unsupervised visitation.
For the parents like me who have lived through this hell, they know what I am talking about. We are all members of an exclusive club (family if you like), that has the highest entrance dues imaginable: the temporary or permanent loss of your own child. Imagine that your own flesh and blood child taken due to whatever horror that one can come up with.
After my youngest daughter was returned to me I wanted to repay those who helped me, through all of this!
Eric Sommerfeldt at Child Find Alberta listened to all my rants, frustrations and pain; he did so with Great Patience during all hours, many days and through many tears.
Even through hard work and a steep learning curve for myself, in a system that at that time had all the odds stacked against me.
I was blessed with the return of my youngest daughter.
Mostly I had help through prayer, my co-workers, family, friends, lawyers, judges, even police and many people who I would never have met if not for this tragedy.
For back then, I had made 2 promises to the GOD, that if my prayers were answered and my daughter was returned to me safe and sound, then I would make sure that no one I ever came across would have to go through this horror the hard way, like I did. Promise 2, is that I would also become a follower of Jesus Christ.
From 1989 to 1991, I helped out with finger printing other people’s kids for Child Find Alberta. That was nice and my youngest daughter had fun helping out as well. It was not really what I wanted to do though and it did not fill the parameters of my self – made promise.
I nagged and nagged the Child Find Alberta Office and In 1991 I became a card carrying volunteer of Child Find Alberta.
I was trained by Dave Credland to be a volunteer Case Manager for parents of all missing children. I am on call 24 hours a day and seven days a week, for Alberta, British Columbia, N.W.T.'s and the Yukon.
At the time I assisted parents in exploring their options to locate their children. Giving them emotional support while and taking their information for Child Find Alberta, for essentially I am just a good listener.
Though I am not a trained social worker/psychiatrist or lawyer, what I do let them know is that I am a parent. Who like them, has already gone through the same fog of despair of a missing child. I give them my hand and together, we walk as far as we can.
After I gathered the necessary information I send it to the full time week day Staff and Investigative Unit via whatever means possible. From that point the full time week day, Case Managers then set up appointments and started the process to hopefully recover the Missing Child.
Since then, I have taken 300 plus calls all hours of the day and night and in some of the strangest places.
Once, I was out of town and on a power pole assisting in the installation of a new power line to my family’s new garage. I was passed up a cell phone by my sister with a distressed parent of a Missing Child on the other end. I relied on my memory of the conversation to write my report. At that time of Child Find Alberta’s operations, I was afraid that I would lose the call, if I moved or hung up for a moment. So I stayed on my power pole and the bonus was that I also had a great view of the Rockies!
One of my scariest calls and we all have one, is a call that I received at 3 AM from a young man who informed me that he had run away from out of province and he had just arrived in Calgary. He went on to inform me that he was getting no help from anyone even though he was a reported “runaway”. The Police and drop in centres would not help him and I was his last resort!
With help from my late wife I was able to contact the Calgary City Police Services and they were going to send a car around to this young man.
He threatened suicide if I did not come down to where he was and help him out. I explained that I could not come down to where he was and that the Police would soon be there to help him out. Then he abruptly said well, “That’s it!” “Thanks for nothing!” “My death will be on your hands” and he hung up.
We both (my wife and I), sat there in the dark enveloped in the chilling silence and just did not know what to do.
The Police dispatch said that a car was to be dispatched but how long would that take and was this young man still at that location??
Both my wife and I just stared at each other and I was torn about going to him or not but that was not in my training, as I had done all that I could do.
I did not sleep much that night and the next day I was informed by Dave Credland that when the Police arrived at that young man’s location.
That there was not just one young person there, like we thought but also several others. Who, if I ignored my training and went to personally assist him, they would have promptly mugged and robbed me for my efforts. This young man not only was a runaway from out of province but one with a long list of outstanding violent arrest warrants to his credit.
These are again just two of my bizarre stories that we, who do this kind of volunteer work sometimes come across.
Through all of these calls and experiences I was lucky enough to keep my promises.
Which again was to make sure that no-one whom I ever came across, would have to go through this horror the hard way, alone like I once did.
I then had the honour in March 2003 to be chosen to attend training and become a member of an organization called Team H.O.P.E. (Help Offering Parents Empowerment) for 10 years (2003-2013) I was a volunteer for the National Centre for Missing and Exploited Children's Team HOPE (Help Offering Parents Empowerment). Since then combined with Child Find Alberta work I made nightly calls to over 407 Parents and assist them in the recovery of their Missing Children, again starting with Child Find Alberta and then through Team Hope of the National Center of Missing and Exploited Children. The NCMEC is the U.S.-based centre that was co-founded by Patti Wetterling, Abby Potash and John Walsh of America's Most Wanted after the murder of his son Adam.
I took all calls related to Missing Children, North America
& International. I was able to handle these through the extensive training
that I received. Also I was proudly part of the team called the “Grief Busters”,
which is Team H.O.P.E.’s most western group of volunteers.
From which, I have brought these new skills to Child Find Alberta and I use them regularly. For I now have more knowledge to offer and I am making great headway to keeping my self-made promise. For my promise continues and will probably continue till I do not.
Also in 2004, I became a Christian at Centre Street Church, to keep my second part of my 2 promises. From here at Centre Street I again volunteered I was able to take the little bit of computer knowledge and use it to help build a Computer Lab at the High School in KwaZulu-Natal Province, Bhekulwandle South Africa. Through Samaritan’s Purse Canada, I went to the Gulf of Mexico (Mississippi & Louisiana) and I assisted in the recovery of 70 Hurricane Katrina ravaged homes. I am very proud of all this and I am also in awe at how far I have come since I was the very distraught parent of Missing Child 27 plus years ago.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UFpaHMqz0nM
From which, I have brought these new skills to Child Find Alberta and I use them regularly. For I now have more knowledge to offer and I am making great headway to keeping my self-made promise. For my promise continues and will probably continue till I do not.
Also in 2004, I became a Christian at Centre Street Church, to keep my second part of my 2 promises. From here at Centre Street I again volunteered I was able to take the little bit of computer knowledge and use it to help build a Computer Lab at the High School in KwaZulu-Natal Province, Bhekulwandle South Africa. Through Samaritan’s Purse Canada, I went to the Gulf of Mexico (Mississippi & Louisiana) and I assisted in the recovery of 70 Hurricane Katrina ravaged homes. I am very proud of all this and I am also in awe at how far I have come since I was the very distraught parent of Missing Child 27 plus years ago.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UFpaHMqz0nM
Posted by Sir Richard…
Saturday, May 28, 2016
WITHOUT JOYCE
WITHOUT JOYCE
They say
that behind every man there’s a Great Woman! In my life this is so true, as what
I became would never have happened without Joyce. Sure, many other dynamics and
people came into my life to make me who I am today…
Though Without Joyce:
“The Fires
of Hell” could well be licking at your toes, she always reminded me. Joyce was
my center as I started my quest to find the Comfort and Love that is Jesus
Christ.
Without Joyce:
I would
never have learned how to make pictures of a rabbit and tank on a Dot Matrix
Machine and work with computers. She gave me the courage to go to night school,
so I could make it into the Information Technology Department at the Calgary
Public Library.
Without Joyce:
I wouldn’t
have been able to take that little bit of computer knowledge and use it to help
build a Computer Lab at the High School in KwaZulu-Natal Province, Bhekulwandle
South Africa.
Without
Joyce:
I would
never have had the ability to make nightly calls to over 407 Parents and assist
them in the recovery of their Missing Children, through Child Find Alberta and
Team Hope the National Center of Missing and Exploited
Children.
Without Joyce:
I could
never have gone to the Gulf of Mexico and assist in the recovery of 70 Hurricane
Katrina ravaged homes.
Without Joyce:
I would
never have had the simple joy of having a Family, Grandchildren and puppy dogs.
She was My Best Friend, she loved me like No Other Human being and taught me to
share this Love with many who needed it and even those who may not have deserved
it. Which is something good, that God taught both Joyce and
I.
But With
Joyce:
I had Twenty
Eight years together that have gone by in a blink of an eye. We traveled life’s
road and have been there and done that, made it through moments of pee your
pants giggles, struggle and strife. Yet my life on this earth was made better
With Joyce and now I have to live another day and night
alone.
Without
Joyce:
Written by
her Stud Muffin and Husband Sir Richard...
http://bayo-hunter.blogspot.ca/Photo: by Sir Richard
Music:
The Phantom of the Opera - The Music of the
Night
WHAT I HAVE LEARNED IN 2 YEARS AFTER THE DEATH OF JOYCE.
WHAT I HAVE LEARNED IN 2 YEARS AFTER THE DEATH OF JOYCE.
Here is the challenge: “Do not use your suffering as a time to discover if you believe in GOD, but focus instead on discovering what you believe about GOD. In times of suffering, GOD does not change, but what you believe about Him, what you understand about Him, may.
You will likely have questions to which you may or may not ever receive answers. It is human nature to want all the puzzle pieces to fit, to want to make sense of things but there are times when that will not happen.
"I was real angry because at the time I couldn't get answers" as I said one time or another about the passing of my wife Joyce. I now realize that there really is no logical reason why Joyce had to suffer but really to end her suffering this was done by her being called home to heaven.
So I've finally come to know that this is the answer for why Joyce is no more on this world!
Though as a human living on this side of death, you will not always receive answers this fast or that will truly satisfy you. The only satisfaction may come when you yourself cross over.
Joyce had appeared at the time to be doing well (The last Hurrah as one might say), when unexpectedly she had passed and I came back home and found her so.
I could not revive her, no more than Joyce wanted me to be around for her final act. I was so upset that I had my faith shaken to the deepest core, which it has ever been shaken.
When I found my Good Wife Dead, though I still blame myself to this day! I thanked CHRIST that Joyce waited for me, to allow me to grieve, to mourn, and for those around to take pity. Just as the EMT Crews just stood around after pronouncement and stared, as in front of them all, I fell apart. Then as they took my Best Friend EVER and Good Wife away, I emotionally melted so badly that they had to turn all their faces away.
To this day I still cannot quench my loneliness and missing of her. Maybe, I never will and when you think about it, you should prepare yourselves as everyone is eventually called home some time, one way or another…
Written by Sir Richard...
Music:
Lady Joyce’s and Sir Richard’s Love Song:
K.D Lang - Constant Craving
And also
Phillip Phillips - Gone, Gone, Gone
Avril Lavigne - Slipped Away.
Friday, May 27, 2016
WHAT’S A SOULMATE?
Joyce Evelyn Henwood-Spence
July 4, 1956 – May 27, 2014
WHAT’S A SOULMATE? WELL FOR ME, JOYCE…
A SOULMATE, it's like a best friend, but more.
It's the one person in the world that knows you better than anyone else.
It's someone who makes you a better person.
Actually, they don't make you a better person...
You do that yourself, because they inspire you.
A SOULMATE is someone who you carry with you forever.
It's the one person, who knew you and accepted you
and believed in you and you in them, before anyone else did
or when no one else would.
And no matter what happens, you'll always Love them.
Joyce you are Missed by me, your reciprocal SOULMATE Sir Richard…
Posted with LOVE
For my Lady Joyce.
From her Sir Richard
Photo by: Sir Richard
Music by:
Away Down The River - Alison Krauss
Martina McBride - All The Things We've Never Done
Indila - Derniere Danse ( Joyce Love Attempting French)
Sarah McLachlan - ANSWER
Sarah McLachlan - In the arms of an angel
Published in The Calgary Herald from May 27 to May 29, 2015
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