Tuesday, February 21, 2017


I signed my first Recording Contract as a Cold River Records Artist! Thank you everyone who made this journey the best and thank you everyone who made my dream come true!!! 
I am so dam proud of you Maggie! At Least I can do something right but you did most, as you just made my Day!!!
God bless you and keep on stomping. With Love from your Canadian friend Richard!




Toxic people such as malignant narcissists, psychopaths and those with antisocial traits engage in maladaptive behaviours in relationships that ultimately exploit, demean and hurt their intimate partners, family members and friends. They use a plethora of diversionary tactics that distort the reality of their victims and deflect responsibility. Although those who are not narcissistic can employ these tactics as well, abusive narcissists use these to an excessive extent in an effort to escape accountability for their actions.

Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic that can be described in different variations of three words: “That didn’t happen,” “You imagined it,” and “Are you crazy?” Gaslighting is perhaps one of the most insidious manipulative tactics out there because it works to distort and erode your sense of reality; it eats away at your ability to trust yourself and inevitably disables you from feeling justified in calling out abuse and mistreatment.

When a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath gaslights you, you may be prone to gaslighting yourself as a way to reconcile the cognitive dissonance that might arise. Two conflicting beliefs battle it out: is this person right or can I trust what I experienced? A manipulative person will convince you that the former is an inevitable truth while the latter is a sign of dysfunction on your end.

In order to resist gaslighting, it’s important to ground yourself in your own reality sometimes writing things down as they happened, telling a friend or reiterating your experience to a support network can help to counteract the gaslighting effect. The power of having a validating community is that it can redirect you from the distorted reality of a malignant person and back to your own inner guidance.

One sure sign of toxicity is when a person is chronically unwilling to see his or her own shortcomings and uses everything in their power to avoid being held accountable for them. This is known as projection. Projection is a defense mechanism used to displace responsibility of one’s negative behaviour and traits by attributing them to someone else. It ultimately acts as a digression that avoids ownership and accountability.

While we all engage in projection to some extent, according to Narcissistic Personality clinical experts, the projections of a narcissist are often psychologically abusive. Rather than acknowledge their own flaws, imperfections and wrongdoings, malignant narcissists and sociopaths opt to dump their own traits on their unsuspecting suspects in a way that is painful and excessively cruel. Instead of admitting that self-improvement may be in order, they would prefer that their victims take responsibility for their behaviour and feel ashamed of themselves. This is a way for a narcissist to project any toxic shame they have about themselves onto another.
For example, a person who engages in pathological lying may accuse their partner of fibbing; a needy spouse may call their husband “clingy” in an attempt to depict them as the one who is dependent; a rude employee may call their boss ineffective in an effort to escape the truth about their own productivity.

Narcissistic abusers love to play the “blameshifting game.” Objectives of the game: they win, you lose, and you or the world at large is blamed for everything that’s wrong with them. This way, you get to babysit their fragile ego while you’re thrust into a sea of self-doubt. Fun, right? No, because I babysat 2 of my own until 40 years later I tired of them causing me pain!

Solution? Don’t “project” your own sense of compassion or empathy onto a toxic person and don’t own any of the toxic person’s projections either. As manipulation projecting our own conscience and value system onto others has the potential consequence of being met with further exploitation.

Narcissists on the extreme end of the spectrum usually have no interest in self-insight or change. It’s important to cut ties and end interactions with toxic people as soon as possible so you can get centered in your own reality and validate your own identity. You don’t have to live in someone else’s cesspool of dysfunction.
If you think you’re going to have a thoughtful discussion with someone who is toxic, be prepared for epic mind fuckery rather than conversational mindfulness.
Malignant narcissists and sociopaths use word salad, circular conversations, ad hominem arguments, projection and gaslighting to disorient you and get you off track should you ever disagree with them or challenge them in any way. They do this in order to discredit, confuse and frustrate you, distract you from the main problem and make you feel guilty for being a human being with actual thoughts and feelings that might differ from their own. In their eyes, you are the problem if you happen to exist.
Spend even ten minutes arguing with a toxic narcissist and you’ll find yourself wondering how the argument even began at all. You simply disagreed with them about their absurd claim that the sky is red and now your entire childhood, family, friends, career and lifestyle choices have come under attack. That is because your disagreement picked at their false belief that they are omnipotent and omniscient, resulting in a narcissistic injury.

Remember: toxic people don’t argue with you, they essentially argue with themselves and you become privy to their long, draining monologues. They thrive off the drama and they live for it. Each and every time you attempt to provide a point that counters their ridiculous assertions, you feed them supply. Don’t feed the narcissists supply rather, supply yourself with the confirmation that their abusive behavior is the problem, not you. Cut the interaction short as soon as you anticipate it escalating and use your energy on some decadent self-care instead.

Malignant narcissists aren’t always intellectual masterminds (though they think that they are), many of them are intellectually lazy. Rather than taking the time to carefully consider a different perspective, they generalize anything and everything you say, making blanket statements that don’t acknowledge the nuances in your argument or take into account the multiple perspectives you’ve paid homage to. Better yet, why not put a label on you that dismisses your perspective altogether?

On a larger scale, generalizations and blanket statements invalidate experiences that don’t fit in the unsupported assumptions, schemes and stereotypes of society; they are also used to maintain the status quo. This form of digression exaggerates one perspective to the point where a social justice issue can become completely obscured. For example, rape accusations against well-liked figures are often met with the reminder that there are false reports of rape that occur. While those do occur, they are rare, and in this case, the actions of one become labeled the behaviour of the majority while the specific report itself remains unaddressed.

These everyday micro aggression's also happen in toxic relationships. If you bring up to a narcissistic abuser that their behavior is unacceptable for example, they will often make blanket generalizations about your hypersensitivity or make a generalization such as, “You are never satisfied,” or “You’re always too sensitive” rather than addressing the real issues at hand. It’s possible that you are oversensitive at times, but it is also possible that the abuser is also insensitive and cruel the majority of the time.

Hold onto your truth and resist generalizing statements by realizing that they are in fact forms of black and white illogical thinking. Toxic people wielding blanket statements do not represent the full richness of experience they represent the limited one of their singular experience and overinflated sense of self.
In the hands of a malignant narcissist or sociopath, your differing opinions, legitimate emotions and lived experiences get translated into character flaws and evidence of your irrationality.

Narcissists weave tall tales to reframe what you’re actually saying as a way to make your opinions look absurd or heinous. Let’s say you bring up the fact that you’re unhappy with the way a toxic friend is speaking to you. In response, he or she may put words in your mouth, saying, “Oh, so now you’re perfect?” or “So I am a bad person, huh?” when you’ve done nothing but express your feelings. This enables them to invalidate your right to have thoughts and emotions about their inappropriate behavior and instills in you a sense of guilt when you attempt to establish boundaries.

This is also a popular form of diversion and cognitive distortion that is known as “mind reading or as I see it; mind fuck.” Toxic people often presume they know what you’re thinking and feeling. They chronically jump to conclusions based on their own triggers rather than stepping back to evaluate the situation mindfully. They act accordingly based on their own delusions and fallacies and make no apologies for the harm they cause as a result. Notorious for putting words in your mouth, they depict you as having an intention or outlandish viewpoint you didn’t possess. They accuse you of thinking of them as toxic even before you’ve gotten the chance to call them out on their behaviour and this also serves as a form of pre-emptive defense a sort of Pearl Harbor on you; Tora, Tora, Tora!

Simply stating, “I never said that,” and walking away should the person continue to accuse you of doing or saying something you didn’t can help to set a firm boundary in this type of interaction? So long as the toxic person can blame shift and digress from their own behavior, they have succeeded in convincing you that you should be “shamed” for giving them any sort of realistic feedback.

The difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism is the presence of a personal attack and impossible standards. These so-called “critics” often don’t want to help you improve, they just want to nitpick, pull you down and scapegoat you in any way they can. Abusive narcissists and sociopaths employ a logical fallacy known as “moving the goalposts” in order to ensure that they have every reason to be perpetually dissatisfied with you. This is when, even after you’ve provided all the evidence in the world to validate your argument or taken an action to meet their request, they set up another expectation of you or demand more proof.
By raising the expectations higher and higher each time or switching them completely, highly manipulative and toxic people are able to install in you a pervasive sense of unworthiness and of never feeling quite “enough.” By pointing out one irrelevant fact or one thing you did wrong and developing a hyper focus on it, narcissists get to divert from your strengths and pull you into obsessing over any flaws or weaknesses instead. They get you thinking about the next expectation of theirs you’re going to have to meet until eventually you’ve bent over backwards trying to fulfill their every need only to realize it didn’t change the horrific way they treated you. Such as when you ill in bed and they have decided all women are bitches and now I am going to come and live with you. NOT!

Don’t get sucked into nitpicking and changing goal posts if someone chooses to rehash an irrelevant point over and over again to the point where they aren’t acknowledging the work you’ve done to validate your point or satisfy them, their motive isn’t to better understand. It’s to further provoke you into feeling as if you have to constantly prove yourself as their friend. Make sure that you Validate and approve of yourself first. Know that you are strong enough and you don’t have to be made to feel constantly deficient or unworthy in some way.

This type of tactic is what I like to call the “What about me?” syndrome. It is a literal digression from the actual topic that works to redirect attention to a different issue altogether. Narcissists don’t want you to be on the topic of holding them accountable for anything, so they will reroute discussions to benefit them. Complaining about their neglectful poor parenting? Then they’ll just point out a mistake you committed seven years ago. This type of diversion has no limits in terms of time or subject content, and often begins with a sentence like “What about the time when…”
On a macro level, these diversions work to derail discussions that challenge the status quo. A discussion about gay rights, for example, may be derailed quickly by someone who brings in another social justice issue just to distract people from the main argument.

As for Women and Girls, specificity is needed in order to resolve and address issues appropriately that doesn’t mean that the issues that are being brought up don’t matter, it just means that the specific time and place may not be the best context to discuss them.

Don’t be derailed if someone pulls a switcheroo on you, you can exercise what I call the “broken record” method and continue stating the facts without giving in to their distractions. Redirect their redirection by saying, “That’s not what I am talking about. Let’s stay focused on the real issue.” If they’re not interested, disengage and spend your energy on something more constructive; like not having a debate with someone who has the mental age of a toddler.

Narcissistic abusers and otherwise toxic people feel very threatened when their excessive sense of entitlement, false sense of superiority and grandiose sense of self are challenged in any way. They are prone to making unreasonable demands on others – while punishing you for not living up to their impossible to reach expectations.

Narcissistic abusers and otherwise toxic people feel very threatened when their excessive sense of entitlement, false sense of superiority and grandiose sense of self are challenged in any way. They are prone to making unreasonable demands on others, while punishing you for not living up to their impossible to reach expectations. For which is why I finally banished my 2 Narcissistic abusers, as my friends that I had for the last 40 years, after the last combined abuse from them.
Rather than tackle disagreements or compromises maturely, they set out to divert you from your right to have your own identity and perspective by attempting to install fear in you about the consequences of disagreeing or complying with their demands. To them, any challenge results in an ultimatum and “do this or I’ll do that” becomes their daily mantra!

If someone’s reaction to you setting boundaries or having a differing opinion from your own is to threaten you into submission, whether it’s a thinly veiled threat or an overt admission of what they plan to do, this is a red flag of someone who has a high degree of entitlement and has no plans of compromising. Take threats seriously and show the narcissist you mean business; document threats and report them whenever possible and legally feasible.

Narcissists pre-emptively blow anything they perceive as a threat to their superiority out of proportion. In their world, only they can ever be right and anyone who dares to say otherwise creates a narcissistic injury that results in narcissistic rage. For the narcissistic rage does not result from low self-esteem but rather, a high sense of entitlement and false sense of superiority.

The lowest of the low resort to narcissistic rage in the form of name-calling when they can’t think of a better way to manipulate your opinion or micromanage your emotions. Name calling is a quick and easy way to put you down, degrade you and insult your intelligence. Appearance or behaviour while invalidating your right to be a separate person with a right to his or her perspective.

Name calling can also be used to criticize your religious beliefs, opinions and insights which are annoying to them because you don’t follow them with theirs. A well-researched perspective or informed opinion suddenly becomes “silly” or “idiotic” in the hands of a malignant narcissist or sociopath who feels threatened by it and cannot make a respectful, convincing rebuttal. Rather than target your argument, they target you as a person and seek to undermine your credibility and intelligence in any way they possibly can. It’s important to end any interaction that consists of name-calling and communicate that you won’t tolerate it. Don’t internalize it: realize that they are resorting to name-calling because they are deficient in higher level methods.

Toxic people condition you to associate your strengths, talents, and happy memories with abuse, frustration and disrespect. They do this by sneaking in covert and overt put-downs about the qualities and traits they once idealized as well as sabotaging your goals, ruining celebrations, vacations and holidays. They may even isolate you from your friends and family and make you financially dependent upon them. Like Pavlov’s dogs, you’re essentially “trained” over time to become afraid of doing the very things that once made your life fulfilling.

Narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths and otherwise toxic people do this because they wish to divert attention back to themselves and how you’re going to please them. If there is anything outside of them that may threaten their control over your life, they seek to destroy it. They need to be the center of attention at all times. In the idealization phase, you were once the center of a narcissist’s world now the narcissist becomes the center of yours.

Narcissists are also naturally pathologically envious and don’t want anything to come in between them and their influence over you. Your happiness represents everything they feel they cannot have in their emotionally shallow lives. After all, if you learn that you can get validation, respect and love from other sources besides the toxic person, what’s to keep you from leaving them? To toxic people, a little conditioning can go a long way to keep you walking on eggshells and falling just short of your big dreams.
When toxic types can’t control the way you see yourself, they start to control how others see you; they play the martyr while you’re labeled the toxic one. Something I eventually figured out when friends of theirs and were once mine. Would treat me with contempt but never telling me why; or disown me for saying that I did or said mean things to their loved ones and not letting me find out why or allowing me to defend myself. A smear campaign is a pre-emptive strike to sabotage your reputation and slander your name so that you won’t have a support network to fall back on lest you decide to detach and cut ties with this toxic person. They may even stalk and harass you or the people you know as a way to supposedly “expose” the truth about you; this exposure acts as a way to hide their own abusive behaviour while projecting it onto you.

Like I said above, some smear campaigns can even work to pit two people or two groups against each other. A victim in an abusive relationship with a narcissist often doesn’t know what’s being said about them during the relationship, but they eventually find out the falsehoods shortly after they’ve been discarded like I was one day.

Toxic people will gossip behind your back (and in front of your face), slander you to your loved ones or their loved ones, create stories that depict you as the aggressor while they play the victim, and claim that you engaged in the same behaviours that they are afraid you will accuse them of engaging in. They will also methodically, covertly and deliberately abuse you so they can use your reactions as a way to prove that they are the so-called “victims” of your abuse.

The best way to handle a smear campaign is to stay mindful of your reactions and stick to the facts. This is especially pertinent for high-conflict divorces with narcissists who may use your reactions to their provocations against you. Document any form of harassment, cyber bullying or stalking incidents and always speak to your narcissist through a lawyer or Police whenever possible. You may wish to take legal action if you feel the stalking and harassment is getting out of control; finding a lawyer who is well-versed in Narcissistic Personality Disorder is crucial if that’s the case. Your character and integrity will speak for itself when the narcissist’s false mask begins to slip. As a psychiatrist told me how does someone stalk another when you are 2,000 miles away plus how long does it take for you to disengage from a toxic personality?

Toxic people put you through an idealization phase until you’re sufficiently hooked and invested in beginning a friendship or relationship with you. Then, they begin to devalue you while insulting the very things they admired in the first place. Another variation of this is when a toxic individual puts you on a pedestal while aggressively devaluing and attacking someone else who threatens their sense of superiority.
Narcissistic abusers do this all the time they devalue their exes to their new partners, and eventually the new partner starts to receive the same sort of mistreatment as the narcissist’s ex-partner. Ultimately what will happen is that you will also be on the receiving end of the same abuse. You will one day be the ex-partner they degrade to their new source of supply. You just don’t know it yet. That’s why it’s important to stay mindful of the love bombing technique whenever you witness behavior that doesn’t align with the saccharine sweetness a narcissist subjects you to.

As it was suggested to me, slowing things down with people you suspect may be toxic is an important way of combating the love bombing technique. Be wary of the fact that how a person treats or speaks about someone else could potentially translate into the way they will treat you in the future!

When someone stresses the fact that they are a “nice guy” or girl, that you should “trust them” right away or emphasizes their credibility without any provocation from you whatsoever, be wary!!
Toxic and abusive people overstate their ability to be kind and compassionate. They often tell you that you should “trust” them without first building a solid foundation of trust. They may “perform” a high level of sympathy and empathy at the beginning of your relationship to dupe you, only to unveil their false mask later on. When you see their false mask begins to slip periodically during the devaluation phase of the abuse cycle, the true self is revealed to be terrifyingly cold, callous and contemptuous.
Genuinely nice people rarely have to persistently show off their positive qualities they exude their warmth more than they talk about it and they know that actions speak volumes more than mere words. They know that trust and respect is a two-way street that requires reciprocity, not repetition.

To counter a pre-emptive defense, revaluate why a person may be emphasizing their good qualities. Is it because they think you don’t trust them, or because they know you shouldn’t? Trust actions more than empty words and see how someone’s actions communicate who they are, not who they say they are.
Bringing in the opinion, perspective or suggested threat of another person into the dynamic of an interaction is known as “triangulation.” Often used to validate the toxic person’s abuse while invalidating the victim’s reactions to abuse, triangulation can also work to manufacture love triangles that leave you feeling unhinged and insecure.
Malignant narcissists love to triangulate their significant other with strangers, co-workers, ex-partners, friends and even family members in order to evoke jealousy and uncertainty in you. They also use the opinions of others to validate their point of view.

This is a diversionary tactic is meant to pull your attention away from their abusive behaviour and into a false image of them as a desirable, sought after person. It also leaves you questioning yourself; if Mary did agree with Tom, doesn’t that mean that you must be wrong? The truth is, narcissists love to “report back” falsehoods about others say about you, when in fact, they are the ones smearing you, until you stop letting them!
Thoughts of a dead man walking,
By Sir Richard…

Monday, February 20, 2017

Votes ‘No’ to TRUMP

 British Parliament Makes History and Votes ‘No’ Regarding State Visit from Trump

In a historic move, British Parliament is debating whether or not to invite President Trump for a state visit. The government body has never debated whether or not to invite a U.S. President to a state visit, and today they voted a resounding “no” regarding the visit.
The debate and subsequent vote were held in response to a petition signed by at least 1.8 million British citizens. Trump’s “well-documented misogyny and vulgarity” were among the reasons the petitioners were calling for the trip to be downgraded from a state visit to a simple visit.
In an insult riddled debate, Trump was said to be behaving like a “petulant child” and Labour MP Paul Flynn referred to the President’s intellect as “protozoan.” Flynn offered a respectful conciliation towards the U.S. when he said: “We all in this room hold in great respect the US presidency, their constitution, their history,” and that there was “no question of any disrespect towards that country.”
Flynn said that offering a state visit to Trump would send the message that Britain approved of the President’s conduct.
David Lammy, Labour MP, said the U.S. President could expect to be invited to the U.K., but that offering him a full state visit was not acceptable. Lammy said Britain offering such an invitation would be to “abandon all its principles” and added the invite came as a result of the government’s desire to make trade deals with the U.S.
“We didn’t do this for Kennedy, we didn’t do this for Truman, we didn’t do this for Reagan, but for this man … we say, ‘Please come and we will lay on everything, because we are so desperate for your company,'” Lammy said. “I think this country is greater than that.”
Just spoke against Trump's state visit. This country is better than this. My children, especially my daughter, deserve better than this.
David Lammy (Feb. 20th 2017)
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Sir Richard

Sunday, February 19, 2017


So here are my photos of my favorite singer Martina McBride, I hope you find them enjoyable, as I was really lucky to get close enough to her to take them in 2015.
and in 2010:
Also here is a a song that she sings and means so much to me it's seems almost:
For you all with Love from, Sir Richard

Saturday, February 18, 2017

Lisa Nicole - Come Find Me (Official Music Video)

“Come Find Me” music video is here!!
Hello Folks!
You should give a listen to this new song by Lisa Nicole;
Directed by Cliff Hokanson and produced by Lisa Nicole.
Lisa Nicole released this beautiful music video filmed at Columbia Gardens Vineyard & Winery!
@lisanicolemusic and #comefindme

Wednesday, February 15, 2017


Mi querido amigo,
I’m cool with you voting against Social Governments as I understand that some Socialist must have messed things up for you but to state Donald Trump (GIVE THE GUY A CHANCE?), is scary as he isn’t a good person, nor is he a good President. I can understand a difference in politics. I can understand if you don’t like a government run by Democrats. I can understand if you don’t like certain ideologies, again like Socialism. But I can’t understand why you would support someone as hateful, sexist, racist and ignorant as Donald Trump.
Ask yourself; are you a racist, sexist, hateful and ignorant person as well? I hear his supporters saying they like him because he tells the truth, because he’s so rich he can say whatever he feels like with no apologies. Just because Trump is saying these things doesn’t suddenly make them right. It’s not okay to discriminate against an entire religion based on a small percentage of its followers who have become terrorists by twisting the words of the religion to fit their crazy ideals. It’s not okay to marginalize an entire race of people, saying things like all the Mexicans are lazy, that they are all stealing our jobs and bringing drugs into our country.
White people also have bad apples. So does every race of people. We’re all human. Some humans are really bad people. Some are really good and it doesn’t matter what color they are, it makes no difference whatsoever. Trump says he is just telling the truth but whose truth? We both have truths are his an mine the same- NO! There are lazy people in every race and there are dangerous violent people in every race and every religion. Kicking all Muslims out of the country is not the answer, nor is it the acceptable behaviour of a person in an extremely powerful position, like the President of the United States.
Here in Canada the Hungarian/German/Austian/Ukranian WW1 and in WW2 the Japanese Internment camps were wrong, Segregation was wrong, Slavery is wrong. We fought wars amongst ourselves to rise above racism and hatred. In WWII more than 60 million people died worldwide. Why? Because of twisted people who were whipping up the population into a real frenzy and making ridiculous statements, like killing innocent people simply because of their race or religion to make you feel better. The United States lost more than 400,000 and Canada 37,000 lives fighting in that war, against some of the same ideas that Trump is pushing. The idea that certain religions are more dangerous than others and the idea that people should be judged based on the color of their skin rather than the content of their character.
“They always say it’s so important to make your voice heard, to get out and vote or protest but I am sure it’s more important than ever!”
As for the United States of America you’re still healing from the damage inflicted by the Civil War, WWI, WWII, Vietnam, Iraq and the War on Terror and it isn’t just ISIS or Al-Qaeda. It’s US Citizens of this country killing their fellow countrymen over differences of opinion, like whether or not you believe abortion is okay or what kind of political ideology you support and then there are just the plainly insane people who finally snap and go on shooting rampages for no discernible reason at all starting from the Tower at the U of T in Austin Texas August 1st 1966. They just went mad!
The kind of leadership Trump is displaying is irresponsible and dangerous. His virulent ideas are seeping into the brains of his supporters. Supporters who think its okay to say things like “light the motherfucker on fire” while a protester is being dragged out of one of his rallies. Maybe the protester was wrong to be where he was at the time, but no matter what he did, there was no reason to set him on fire. In fact, there is NEVER a reason to set anyone on fire. Unless it’s because they are dead and they wish to be cremated.
Trump’s supporters are angry, and anger is infectious. I can tell you as a non-supporter of Trump I am just as angry. IMO U need the kind of Leader that seeks to bring U all together, not tear U apart. Why do U have to fight against helping each other, against common sense, against A United Nation? The American Dream is a nightmare and we are all feeding it, through a Casino economy called Wall Street and makes it worse every day. Trump is a bully, a loud mouth, ignorant, sexist, racist a disgusting example of how horrible humans can potentially be.
He is the crazy person at your dinner table at Christmas, who won’t stop running his mouth. The only reason he is allowed to carry on with his ugly hateful rhetoric is because you have too much respect for Grandma to get into a fist fight in front of her. He’s the guy you have to endure until he leaves, all the while hating every minute that you have to occupy the same space and time. Lucky for us, this isn’t Grandma’s house, so feel free to punch him in the mouth in the form of getting out and making your voice count!
It’s so important to make your voice be heard but I’m not sure if it’s ever been more important than it is now. Differences of political ideals are one thing, I can agree to disagree on many matters across a wide array of topics, but racism isn’t one of them, neither is hate, neither is the belittling of women or the judgment of others based on their appearance or their disability, or their sexual preference as we are not GOD and cannot judge.
By supporting Trump do you think things will go back to the way they were? Back to $20.00 an hour jobs when they can make things like that scum Steve Jobs by paying some poor Chinese worker $1.00 per hour or when gay people had to hide in fear, back when people of any other color than white had to worry about getting lynched, back when it was okay to openly hate? Do you think empowered women will suddenly go and quit their jobs then go back to the kitchen?
Because electing Trump won’t make any of that come true. We’re all past that as nations, or at least I thought we were.
“I can agree to disagree on many matters across a wide array of topics, but racism isn’t one of them, neither is hate, neither is the belittling of women...”
If you’re not a racist, bigoted, misogynistic jerk, then voting for Trump simply because you don’t like Democrats is wrong even if Hillary is distasteful. If you are one of his supporters and you’re just as racist and you don’t care who knows it then vote for him, but know that the good people of North America will not stand for it and he will never win a fair election, just take a look at Mr. Putin and Flynn. My request is for the next generation of US kids to please consider pursuing an education as when I Volunteered with NCMEC, I learned by talking to 408 missing children families, I could see for many Geography was not important unless invading the latest country with the new warrior class?
We all could work on our empathy toward our fellow human beings. To Trump supporters whatever led them to believe that racism is okay can be unlearned if they open their minds as it was hard for me too coming from an after WW2 family to open my mind but with the help of JESUS CHRIST my mind is now open to loving my fellow man. I’m sorry that you were raised to believe that you deserve better treatment than the rest of the people on the planet who have different views than yours, worship different GOD in a different way than us and have skin that isn’t white.
To all the people, of all the races and religions that Donald Trump stands against, to all the women that don’t meet his standards of beauty, to all the good Muslims, and Christians, and Catholics and Jewish, Italians, Irish and Asians, to the African-Americans Spanish Americans, African Americans and Native Americans. To anyone who has ever been persecuted, belittled, made to feel inferior or bullied based on ignorance like the kind that Trump is spewing, please, I implore you to get out and RESIST him. Don’t let the progress of your Great Nation be halted as you and we all have come too far.
“I see in the near future a crisis approaching that unnerves me and causes me to tremble for safety of both of our countries; corporations have been enthroned, an era of corruption in High Places will follow, and the Money Power of the country will endeavour to prolong its reign by working upon the prejudices of the People, until the wealth is aggregated in a few hands. Then Democracy is destroyed if not just us then the World as WAR is the best money making venture of all but this time there will be no futures in Wall Street left or anyone else for that matter!”
Trump IS the one percent, he IS working on your prejudices, and he WILL destroy the Democracy if he continues with support, make no doubt about it!
If you don’t believe me, just read below, the level of CRAZY coming out of his mouth:
“[I am] calling for a total and complete shutdown of Muslims entering the United States until our country’s representatives can figure out what is going on” — Donald Trump. = That’s religious discrimination.
“An ‘extremely credible source’ has called my office and told me that Barack Obama’s birth certificate is a fraud” — Donald Trump. = That’s an outright lie.
“Arianna Huffington is unattractive, both inside and out. I fully understand why her former husband left her for a man - he made a good decision.” — Donald Trump. = This is sexism, and just plain rude.
“You know, it really doesn’t matter what the media write as long as you’ve got a young, and beautiful, piece of ass.” - Donald Trump. = This is misogyny at its finest!
“I will build a great wall — and nobody builds walls better than me, believe me — and I’ll build them very inexpensively. I will build a great, great wall on our southern border, and I will make Mexico pay for that wall. Mark my words.” - Donald Trump. = The words of an arrogant hate monger and you will pay for the Wall unless U invade Mexico!
“When Mexico sends its people, they’re not sending the best. They’re not sending you, they’re sending people that have lots of problems and they’re bringing those problems with us. They’re bringing drugs. They’re bringing crime. They’re rapists... And some, I assume, are good people.” — Donald Trump. = Racist.
“Our great African-American President hasn’t exactly had a positive impact on the thugs who are so happily and openly destroying Baltimore.” — Donald Trump. = Racist.
“If I were running ‘The View’, I’d fire Rosie O’Donnell. I mean, I’d look at her right in that fat, ugly face of hers, I’d say ‘Rosie, you’re fired.” — Donald Trump. = The words of an asshole.
“The beauty of me is that I’m very rich.” - Donald Trump. = Your So Vain Narcissist.
“It’s freezing and snowing in New York - we need global warming!” - Donald Trump. = Ignorant.
“My fingers are long and beautiful, as, it has been well documented, are various other parts of my body.” - Donald Trump. = Who freaking cares at 70 and Viagra anything is possible - Gross.
“I think the only difference between me and the other candidates that ran against me is that I’m more honest and my women are beautiful.” - Donald Trump. = Sexist. As if women are possessions rather than people and also a lie. = A lie about how honest he is.
How can you support this man thing? GIVE THE GUY A CHANCE?, for what? So I can watch my Grandkids die at the hands of these Fake Christian Psychotics!
by Sir Richard
Dios lis Bendiga

Tuesday, February 14, 2017


Personally I do not believe or celebrate Valentine’s Day.
As my forever Valentine, who is my Wife Joyce received from me
and to me from her.
A Valentine of sorts, that was at least once a month and out of the blue.
It is called a "Just Because" gift, or card or thought.
So guys as a bit of advice, "Just Because Love" lasts much longer,
then a single day event.
"A Just Because I Love You To The One Whom You LOVE Is Every Day!"
To My First And Only Unconditional Love,
Lady Joyce Henwood
P.S. I understand the above song now Joyce.
See You Soon!
Sir Richard Abbenbroek...

Monday, February 13, 2017

Prevent Donald Trump from making a State Visit to the United Kingdom

Dear Richard Abbenbroek,
The Government has responded to the petition you signed – “Prevent Donald Trump from making a State Visit to the United Kingdom.”.
Government responded:

HM Government believes the President of the United States should be extended the full courtesy of a State Visit. We look forward to welcoming President Trump once dates and arrangements are finalized.

HM Government recognizes the strong views expressed by the many signatories of this petition, but does not support this petition.
During her visit to the United States on 27 January 2017, the Prime Minister, on behalf of Her Majesty the Queen, invited President Trump for a State Visit to the UK later this year. The invitation was accepted. This invitation reflects the importance of the relationship between the United States of America and the United Kingdom. At this stage, final dates have not yet been agreed for the State Visit.
Foreign and Commonwealth Office
Click this link to view the response online:
This petition has over 100,000 signatures. The Petitions Committee will consider it for a debate. They can also gather further evidence and press the government for action.
The Committee is made up of 11 MPs, from political parties in government and in opposition. It is entirely independent of the Government. Find out more about the Committee: https://petition.parliament.uk/help#petitions-committee
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UK Government and Parliament

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Sunday, February 12, 2017

Isa Peña

Isa Peña
Official Music Video for my original song Sin Miedo. English version is the next video after the Spanish version!

Hi! I'm Isa and I'm a 16 year old singer, actress and dancer from Miami! Thanks for spending some time on my channel! I've been performing on stage since the age of 2 in many, many Broadway shows throughout Miami and it's my passion in life. I also play guitar and piano and love to cover songs in English, Spanish and Mandarin Chinese! (Yes, Chinese) :) I've sung in Carnegie Hall in NYC and also at the Adrienne Arscht Center in Miami and Broward Center for the Performing Arts. I'm a national anthem singer for the Miami Dolphins, Miami Heat, Miami Marlins and the University of Miami Hurricanes. Welcome to my musical world! BGTY-BGTO! (Be good to yourself and be good to others!) Muah! From Isa

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Saturday, February 11, 2017


Now my Mom who is insecure and seemed to have past the insecure gene to me. She would make sure we left our Christmas presents at home and were all dressed up, so we would not cause problems on our Christmas dinner visits. Later in life, I never went out with my family on Christmas Day just for that reason and only if it could not be helped. Now we had 3 classes of people in our family which were; the wealthy, the middles and the middles-poor.
We in my mind were in the in middles-poor group and I was OK with this. We ate, never saw our Dad as he always had 2 jobs and on Sundays you better be there for dinner as that was Dad's only day off to see us all. All in all things were survivable until we could leave home.
Rich or wealthy had older kids, no toys of there own and lived on great lawns called golf courses. They ate but lightly and sadly there food was blah boring. We all complimented the cook on how good eating the little of nothing was.
They also had blue water in their toilets that was to pretty as I felt bad to pee in it.
My next in line brother and I would go to; Oh get this, they had 4 bathrooms! So we would flush the toilets and count how many times U could flush and still have blue water? Science experiments really and they also had 5 towels in each bathroom so they looked almost just store bought and as to not mess up their towel collection I would dry my washed hands on my pants.
The middles had only 2 bathrooms and 4 towels and again I respected their collection. No blue water though but houses with attached garages. The middles food was exceptionally delicious and they also had jello salad with grated carrots; very classy and good to! You went home full and hoped for a return visit soon!
The Middle-poor group that I was a proud member of, also had great food. Towels that you could use but we're wet along with detached garages in back. You could hang around with the adults after supper and dishes, who rolled there own cigarettes with a machine plus they drank beer and not hard booze like the above classes.
Clean up dish duty was assigned for us kids to do but that was fun as we joked around. My cousins were mostly female and Barbie Dolls were only fun if you could decapitated them for some traitorous event. Which made my female Cousins go crazy!
Again there was more fun stories in the last group as my Mom even settled down and relaxed. Have you ever noticed that poor people can visit the folks on top of the ladder but the top of the ladder folks always seemed awkward coming down to our world?
My wife Joyce out of 3 other previous wives and my Mom, was the only one who could duplicate the jello with grated carrots salad. Now days I have my own blue water in my toilets but not the 5 or 4 towels as laundry is more of a hassle when you dirty more!
I have 3 bathrooms but only use 2, as the last one is Joyce's and no one is allowed to use it. For in all I have toilet seats always down so just in case Joyce visited from heaven she would not fall into the toilet like my first wife did and was pregnant to boot. You learn to never do that again quickly!!!
To this day I still get confused about more than one towel, yes I dry my hands on my clothes so I do not wreck who evers towel collection. Oh, Joyce was scent sensitive so I also have air fresheners and smelly soap which has nothing to do with my above talk of my young memories about my family social structure and WEALTHY PEOPLE.
Written by Sir Richard
Just because I still can!

Friday, February 10, 2017

MANDY BO sings American Pie

sings American Pie in a dedication to her Grandfather.  
https://t.co/WlAnyhovr2 https://t.co/uNOEtbq3wJ
This is my friend Mandy who I am promoting. One of my other young ladies has a recording contract from my meddling. 
One day Mandy will too!
Posted by,
Sir Richard...

Wednesday, February 8, 2017

Beautiful day by Sonia Eden

Sonia Eden
Have you heard ‘Its a Beautiful Day’ by Sonia Eden on:  
have a Beautiful day by Sonia Eden from her "Pieces Of Me Album."

Friday, February 3, 2017


Oh, before I start read this, if you do not like what I write, then please delete yourself from my Facebook. As I will not miss you, as I will understand it is only me and JESUS CHRIST who will be around when I am called home! For in my slow progression to complete madness since Joyce past away, I over dwell on the subject for sure; Is she really dead? Or was she just faking it? Or is this just a real bad nightmare that I really need to wake up from?? So my head people said I should check out what happens when you (DIE), which I stole the below from a Hospice but IMO, I think you all need to know too.

Preparing for Approaching Death
When a person enters the final stage of the dying process, two different dynamics are at work which are closely interrelated and interdependent. On the physical plane, the body begins the final process of shutting down, which will end when all the physical systems cease to function. Usually this is an orderly and undramatic progressive series of physical changes which are not medical emergencies requiring invasive interventions. These physical changes are a normal, natural way in which the body prepares itself to stop, and the most appropriate kinds of responses are comfort enhancing measures.

The other dynamic of the dying process at work is on the emotional-spiritual-mental-plane, and is a different kind of process. The spirit of the dying person begins the final process of release from the body, its immediate environment, and all attachments. This release also tends to follow its own priorities, which may include the resolution of whatever is unfinished of a practical nature and reception of permission to “let go” from family members. These events are the normal, natural way in which the spirit prepares to move from this existence into the next dimension of life. The most appropriate kinds of responses to the emotional-spiritual-mental changes are those which support and encourage this release and transition.

When a person’s body is ready and wanting to stop, but the person is still unresolved or reconciled over some important issue or with some significant relationship, he or she may tend to linger in order to finish whatever needs finishing even though he or she may be uncomfortable or debilitated. On the other hand, when a person is emotionally-spiritually-mentally resolved and ready for this release, but his or her body has not completed its final physical shut down, the person will continue to live until that shut down process ceases.

The experience we call death occurs when the body completes its natural process of shutting down, and when the spirit completes its natural process of reconciling and finishing. These two processes need to happen in a way appropriate and unique to the values, beliefs, and lifestyle of the dying person.

Therefore, as you seek to prepare yourself as this event approaches, the members of your Hospice care team want you to know what to expect and how to respond in ways that will help your loved one accomplish this transition with support, understanding, and ease. This is the great gift of love you have to offer your loved one as this moment approaches.

The emotional-spiritual-mental and physical signs and symptoms of impending death which follow are offered to help you understand the natural kinds of things which may happen and how you can respond appropriately. Not all these signs and symptoms will occur with every person, nor will they occur in this particular sequence.

Each person is unique and needs to do things in his or her own way. This is not the time to try to change your loved one, but the time to give full acceptance, support, and comfort.
The following signs and symptoms described are indicative of how the body prepares itself for the final stage of life.

The person´s hands and arms, feet and then legs may be increasingly cool to the touch, and at the same time the color of the skin may change. This a normal indication that the circulation of blood is decreasing to the body’s extremities and being reserved for the most vital organs. Keep the person warm with a blanket, but do not use one that is electric.

The person may spend an increasing amount of time sleeping, and appear to be uncommunicative or unresponsive and at times be difficult to arouse. This normal change is due in part to changes in the metabolism of the body. Sit with your loved one, hold his or her hand, but do not shake it or speak loudly. Speak softly and naturally. Plan to spend time with your loved one during those times when he or she seems most alert or awake. Do not talk about the person in the person’s presence. Speak to him or her directly as you normally would, even though there may be no response. Never assume the person cannot hear; hearing is the last of the senses to be lost.

The person may seem to be confused about the time, place, and identity of people surrounding him or her including close and familiar people. This is also due in part to the metabolism changes. Identify yourself by name before you speak rather than to ask the person to guess who you are. Speak softly, clearly, and truthfully when you need to communicate something important for the patient’s comfort, such as, It is time to take your medication, and explain the reason for the communication, such as, so you won’t begin to hurt. Do not use this method to try to manipulate the patient to meet your needs.

The person may lose control of urine and/or bowel matter as the muscles in that area begin to relax. Discuss with your Hospice nurse what can be done to protect the bed and keep your loved one clean and comfortable.

The person may have gurgling sounds coming from his or her chest as though marbles were rolling around inside these sounds may become very loud. This normal change is due to the decrease of fluid intake and an inability to cough up normal secretions. Suctioning usually only increases the secretions and causes sharp discomfort. Gently turn the person s head to the side and allow gravity to drain the secretions. You may also gently wipe the mouth with a moist cloth. The sound of the congestion does not indicate the onset of severe or new pain.

The person may make restless and repetitive motions such as pulling at bed linen or clothing. This often happens and is due in part to the decrease in oxygen circulation to the brain and to metabolism changes. Do not interfere with or try to restrain such motions. To have a calming effect, speak in a quiet, natural way, lightly massage the forehead, read to the person, or play some soothing music.

Urine Decrease
The person´s urine output normally decreases and may become tea colored referred to as concentrated urine. This is due to the decreased fluid intake as well as decrease in circulation through the kidneys.

Fluid and Food Decrease
The person may have a decrease in appetite and thirst, wanting little or no food or fluid. The body will naturally begin to conserve energy which is expended on these tasks. Do not try to force food or drink into the person, or try to use guilt to manipulate them into eating or drinking something. To do this only makes the person much more uncomfortable. Small chips of ice, frozen juice may be refreshing in the mouth. If the person is able to swallow, fluids may be given in small amounts by a non-needled syringe. Glycerin swabs may help keep the mouth and lips moist and comfortable. A cool, moist washcloth on the forehead may also increase physical comfort.

Breathing Pattern Change
The person s regular breathing pattern may change with the onset of a different breathing pace. A particular pattern consists of breathing irregularly, i.e., shallow breaths with periods of no breathing of five to thirty seconds and up to a full minute. This is called Cheyne-Stokes breathing. The person may also experience periods of rapid shallow panting-like breathing. These patterns are very common and indicate decrease in circulation in the internal organs. Elevating the head, and/or turning the person onto his or her side may bring comfort. Hold your loved one’s hand. Speak gently.

Normal Emotional, Spiritual, and Mental Signs and Symptoms with Appropriate Responses

The person may seem unresponsive, withdrawn, or in a comatose-like state. This indicates preparation for release, a detaching from surroundings and relationships, and a beginning of letting go. Since hearing remains all the way to the end, speak to your loved one in your normal tone of voice, identifying yourself by name when you speak, hold his or her hand, and say whatever you need to say that will help the person let go.

Vision-like Experiences
The person may speak or claim to have spoken to persons who have already died, or to see or have seen places not presently accessible or visible to you. This does not indicate an hallucination or a drug reaction. The person is beginning to detach from this life and is being prepared for the transition so it will not be frightening. Do not contradict, explain away, belittle or argue about what the person claims to have seen or heard. Just because you cannot see or hear it does not mean it is not real to your loved one. Affirm his or her experience. They are normal and common. If they frighten your loved one, explain that they are normal occurrences. Joyce a week before she left the hospital for the last time told me that her Grand-mother was standing beside me in her blue and white poke-a-dot dress and was smiling. They even talked to one and another and Joyce said her Grand-mother liked me. I was stunned and just listened to Joyce.

The person may perform repetitive and restless tasks. This may in part indicate that something still unresolved or unfinished is disturbing him or her, and prevents him or her from letting go. You may think of ways to help the person find release from the tension or fear. Other things which may be helpful in calming the person are to recall a favorite place the person enjoyed, a favorite experience, read something comforting, play their music, and give assurance that it is OK to let go.

Fluid and Food Decrease
When the person may want little or no fluid or food, this may indicate readiness for the final shut down. Do not try to force food or fluid. You may help your loved one by giving permission to let go whenever he or she is ready. At the same time affirm the person s ongoing value to you and the good you will carry forward into your life that you received from him or her.

Decreased Socialization
The person may only want to be with a very few or even just one person. This is a sign of preparation for release and affirms from whom the support is most needed in order to make the appropriate transition. If you are not part of this inner circle at the end, it does not mean you are not loved or are unimportant. It means you have already fulfilled your task with your loved one, and it is the time for you to say Good-bye. If you are part of the final inner circle of support, the person needs your affirmation, support, and permission. Joyce past when the appointment we were to go to, she cancelled and I went by her prodding, which I believe she knew and did not want me to see it happen!

Unusual Communication
The person may make a seemingly out of character or non sequitur statement, gesture, or request. This indicates that he or she is ready to say Good-bye and is testing you to see if you are ready to let him or her go. Accept the moment as a beautiful gift when it is offered. Kiss, hug, hold, cry, and say whatever you most need to say. I gave Joyce a kiss and said “Kiss Noise Love You” be back soon and she did the same to me. As I was going down the alley a Nurse called and said Joyce would not answer the phone. I called Joyce and she said I do not want to talk to anyone, and you are going to be late! I am fine Joyce said; so do not worry I LOVE YOU, I Love you too I replied.

Giving Permission
Giving permission to your loved one to let go, without making him or her guilty for leaving or trying to keep him or her with you to meet your own needs, can be difficult. A dying person will normally try to hold on, even though it brings prolonged discomfort, in order to be sure those who are going to be left behind will be all right. Therefore, your ability to release the dying person from this concern and give him or her assurance that it is all right to let go whenever he or she is ready is one of the greatest gifts you have to give your loved one at this time.

Saying Good-bye
When the person is ready to die and you are able to let go, then is the time to say good-bye. Saying good-bye is your final gift of love to your loved one, for it achieves closure and makes the final release possible. It may be helpful to lay in bed and hold the person, or to take his or her hand and then say everything you need to say.
It may be as simple as saying, I love you. It may include recounting favorite memories, places, and activities you shared. It may include saying, I ’m sorry for whatever I contributed to any tension or difficulties in our relationship. It may also include saying, Thank you for...

Tears are a normal and natural part of saying good-bye. Tears do not need to be hidden from your loved one or apologized for. Tears express your love and help you to let go.
Although you may be prepared for the death process, you may not be prepared for the actual death moment. It may be helpful for you and your family to think about and discuss what you would do if you were the one present at the death moment.

How Will You Know When Death Has Occurred?
Although you may be prepared for the death process, you may not be prepared for the actual death moment. It may be helpful for you and your family to think about and discuss what you would do if you were the one present at the death moment.
The signs of death include such things as no breathing, no heartbeat, release of bowel and bladder, no response, eyelids slightly open (Joyce had one eyelid closed and one eye partly open), pupils enlarged, eyes fixed on a certain spot, no blinking, jaw relaxed and mouth slightly open (Joyce’s mouth was closed), In Hollywood, the closing of the eyelids of a loved one is always done with a oh-so-soft gentle downward sweep lasting no more time than it takes for the hand to pass in front of the eyes. In my case which was not easy even to attempt, as you can well imagine, well I felt bad for a long time besides not bringing her back to life with CPR but I was informed later that the eye closing is Hollywood and usually cannot be done.
That’s about it Folks now you know.
Sir Richard...
Always searching for you.