Wednesday, July 16, 2014


You know in the Road Runner cartoons, the way Wile E. Coyote can run off a cliff and he’s fine but then he does not fall, until he looks down?
I used to believe that this was the secret for my life, to "Never Look Down" but it's more than that.
It's not just about not looking down, what it is about is realizing that you're in the middle of the air and you don't know how to fly!
That is how my last marriage before Joyce caught me, it’s hard to decide where I should start and at the same time, it is very easy for it’s all there.
All the memories, the pain, the fear, the stress are all just a simple recalled flashback away.
One moment from a time long ago, when my world was turned upside down and my child was abducted.
In hindsight and IMO, it was because of nothing more than another person’s whim, of control over me.
So they could say; look, at what I can do to you and you cannot stop me! This is what I found to be the case with most of the 407 Child Abductions, which I eventually came to know.
I became a single Dad and had to adapt quickly and Joyce seemed to be impressed by this. Helping out when she could and listening to each and every adventure of being a single parent as it was presented to me.
Not only did I learn to help others through Child Find Alberta but Joyce and I became even closer.
At the same time in the Library, I gravitated towards the Union and became a Union Rep, Recording Secretary, and eventually the Union Local Vice President.
Quite an accomplishment considering I worked with 600 or so females with maybe 6 males, including the Library Director within the whole system.
The Library Union, was the safest place for me at the time as both Joyce and I had supervisors, who delighted in pulling the wings off of us (their opinion), flies.
Joyce’s marriage also was becoming a scary event but she kept trooping along, especially after the adoption of her new Son.
Joyce was happy and yet at the same time afraid and I have found that when you're afraid of something, what you want more than anything else is to make this fear go away. You want your life back to the way it was before you found out that there was something to be afraid of. You want to go so far and even build a high wall and live your old life behind it. But nothing ever stays the same. That's not your old life at all. That's your New Norm of your New Life with a wall around it. Your choice is not about going back to the way things were. Your choice is about hiding, or about going right to the heart of the thing that scares you most and dealing with it head on!
Fear Just East Of Revelstoke;
Part 4 by Richard Abbenbroek…

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